Today, my lecturer, Mr. Bala had tough me a valuable lesson!! The final counseling topic being discussed in the final tutorial class is Manipulative Skills.
Manipulative skill is a skill that can use to control people thoughts, finding scapegoat from others, and worst make others feeling guilty. This skill often being practice by children, teenagers, even adults just to take attention from others people! They do it for no any reason why....... Not only this, they often act as a victim that try to gain power in their group. Therefore, unconsciously we find ourselves is on the defensive part.
For some people, especially parents feel difficult to deal with this of kids, and they tend to allow or follow of what their kids needs, what they wants!! To ignore their responses is not an easy task as they will try any offensive methods to tackle with! One of the most common reaction they try to do is by giving excuses that can convince others, some even may hurt others feelings too!!
Even though deal with them is not easy, there are some ways that can deal with them! One of the best technique can use is playing the victim role by convincing them and can make them feeling relieve. This technique especially useful when dealing with children whom try to find a victim and escape what they had did as "They will escape uncovered".
This sound familiar to the people whom like to act this kind of action since they were kids. Even though when a person will become mature as they growth up, but, this manipulative action cannot be change as this had become one of their habit dealing in their daily life. Only by changing attitude towards the people surrounding us can only change the habit that we use to practice~~
